How often have we been told to just be happy! Well?????

Is it that easy? Or is it just easy to say when we think we ought to pick somebody up out of the dull drums? What do we really know about how the person across from us or on the other end of the line in how they feel that got them down in the first place? To be happy is a state of mind, and everyone can or will come to it when the time is right. Sure if we can spot stuckness in the dull drums maybe we can offer that up for inspection, but that is about it. I wish that nobody would say "I am tired....I am sick and tired or any other such life hindering statement, but when my Friend said those Words the other Day and I quickly added my 2 cents, for fear that the Universe is going to listen to her Words and then act upon it, it did not sit right with her and she gave many reasons why. In all that she missed that I cared about what those Words might do to her psyche. So instead of helping I did nothing to make her feel as thought I stood by her side with support for the situation. Equally as tough is the sorrow of somebody that has experienced the loss of a loved one. There are so many areas that require healing before Happiness can make a Home again in their Heart. Just a smile may take a very long time to return.
There I understood it is something that we need to find on our own terms.

What about choosing right from wrong, is it easier....or is it? We are the product of our growing up, experiences along the way in many instances. As have our Parents and their Parents and so on. When we harm somebody yes that is always wrong and how awful to think that a Kid has grown up to believe it is a way to get from point A to point B. We were all Children and followed the examples set before us. Many learned to choose....there it is!!! to choose to do something different than given as Life experience. Those are the fortunate ones. The longer I observe People and listen to their stories and decisions the more I understand that Life is rarely just two-toned. Some make Plans, very specific Plans to produce a certain outcome, but because People are so vastly different within their own mindset that "the best laid plan for Mice and Man" rarely turn out as planed.

So...as another Valentin's Day; the Day of Love is approaching, the Flower stores filled with an overpriced Sea of Blossoms, Candy boxes everywhere and Balloons beckoning from the ceiling, not to mention the overwhelming amount of Cards describing three Words, we might say a little prayer for all those that will be alone, lonely and struggling to make sense of it all. In it we want to wish that they will find a way to reclaim Happiness, when the time is right for them.
~ Happiness is not an invitation-only  ~


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